Noble Living, Noble Caring, Noble Dying · Noble Caring for Children

Caring for Children, Part Two

By Tsunma Jamyang Donma
Tsunma Jamyang Donma continues her discussion of caring for very ill children.

In the second video in this series, Tsunma Jamyang continues her discussion of caring for children. Here, she encourages the care-giver to recall the four immeasurable attitudes:

  • Loving Kindness
  • Compassion
  • Equanimity
  • Sympathetic Joy

If you wish to learn more about these practices, we suggest our blog on Training in Kindness.

As a spiritual care provider, we can bring these four attitudes to mind as we work with the entire mandala, or circle around the child. We can begin by imagining ourselves as the child, and thereby open up to their experience more fully. We can keep this simple, and offer the child the simple comforts that he or she may need in a stressful and strange environment. Often if we can provide a favorite blanket, or stuffed animal, or familiar food that can soothe the child.

Also, by bringing attitudes of kindness and compassion to the family and friends, we may be able to sense which others may need help and support. Often this is the kindest duty we can perform for the child—we can help them by helping their own loved ones. Again, Tsunma-la reminds us always to use the lens of mindfulness in the care environment and to gently teach receptive family members how to apply that practice as well.